The Art of Building Legacy: Multi-Generational Wealth Transfer, Motive, & Advisor Relationships With Joe Strazzeri, Esq.

Amber Stitt
Dec 30, 2025
3 min read

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When it comes to preserving and growing family wealth across generations, technical expertise is only part of the equation. On this special edition of “Pathways with Amber Stitt,” Joe Strazzeri, a tax attorney with a dynamic background in construction, business ownership, and education, delivers timeless wisdom on how relationships, communication, and understanding motives shape the real legacy of high-net-worth families.

From Building Businesses to Building Wealth

Joe Strazzeri’s journey is anything but linear. As he shares with host Amber Stitt, he began in civil engineering and construction, building and selling two businesses before age 30—then transitioned to law. This blend of hands-on business experience and financial acumen uniquely positions him to relate to clients who—like he did—must grapple with the real-world challenges of wealth creation.

But more than financial strategies, Joe Strazzeri focuses on the human side of wealth. He describes spending much of his time not only crafting technical solutions for substantial family fortunes, but also helping to resolve family conflicts and teaching these concepts to others.

The Hidden Dynamics: Motive as the “Invisible Guest”

One groundbreaking concept from Strazzeri’s new book, “Motive,” is the idea of motive as the invisible guest at every family table. Strazzeri insists that understanding the unspoken drivers—whether among family members or advisors—is essential. Families who successfully transition wealth across generations consistently share two things:

Strong, Trust-Based Relationships with Advisors: It isn’t the specific investments that matter most, Strazzeri says, but ongoing, candid conversations—both in good times and bad—well before crises strike.
Open Family Communication and Trust: Echoing the research of Roy Williams, Strazzeri emphasizes that intergenerational transfers fail not because of bad investments, but because of missing trust and poor communication.

Too often, families ignore underlying motives—sometimes out of misunderstanding, fear, or past slights—until it becomes a problem. Joe Strazzeri highlights the importance of examining these invisible forces early and often.

Raising the Next Generation: Lessons in Failure and Stewardship

How do you teach rising generations to be wise and independent with wealth? Joe Strazzeri shares his personal approach with his own children: giving them ‘seed money’ and allowing them to make investment decisions—knowing that small failures now will lead to greater wisdom when larger stakes are involved. He intentionally creates opportunities for his children to struggle, learn, and succeed on their own terms—not to follow rigid rules, but to develop a true sense of stewardship.

As he puts it, “I hope they lose money with that little number before they get a bigger number and lose it. I hope they learn the lessons because I had to learn my lessons.”

The Unique Mindset of Wealth Creators

It’s a misconception that wealth creators are driven by self-interest alone. In fact, Strazzeri points out, most of the ultra-successful clients he advises have an “others first” mindset—they find joy in serving their families and communities. Despite being misunderstood as “type A” or “narcissistic,” these individuals work tirelessly to protect and nurture those around them, looking two generations ahead for those eager to serve, not control, the family legacy.

Practical Steps for Families and Financial Advisors

Looking for actionable takeaways? Strazzeri encourages couples—at any wealth stage—to regularly reflect on what lessons, examples, and opportunities they’re providing for their children. He advises families to cultivate healthy conflict and collaboration among their advisors, rewarding open discussion and innovation, not just consensus or salesmanship.

Ultimately, “legacy” isn’t about amassing wealth for its own sake, but about building relationships, communication, and wisdom that endure. Whether you’re an entrepreneur, advisor, or someone ‘on the come up,’ Strazzeri’s advice applies: create synergy, invite honest conversations, and never shy away from letting your family—and yourself—learn, adapt, and grow.

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