Healthy Love: How Emotional Intelligence Transforms Business and Life with Steven Goldhar

Amber Stitt
Aug 12
3 min read

Pathways Unleashed: Navigating Life, Authenticity, and Self-Love—A Conversation with Steven Goldhar

On a special edition of “Pathways with Amber Stitt,” we had the privilege of diving deep into the journey of Steven Goldhar—entrepreneur, bestselling author, and dedicated coach. Recorded at the Unleash Your Superpower conference, this episode offers an honest look at what it means to move beyond success for success’ sake and instead cultivate an authentic, sustainable, and fulfilling life.

Redefining Success: From Chasing Dollars to Chasing Alignment

Steven Goldhar’s story starts as it does for many: young, entrepreneurial, and hungry for achievement. But as he shares with host Amber Stitt, the path wasn’t always as glamorous as it might have seemed from the outside. “What is going on? What is life really about?” Steven reflects. He describes the all-too-familiar cycle of reaching for new goals without ever feeling truly satisfied, always comparing himself to others and never quite arriving at happiness.

The turning point came in Steven’s late 20s. After outward victories and serial business pursuits, he found himself wrestling with the internal costs of “putting parts of himself aside” in order to play the role of the unflappable entrepreneur. “We have to look like nothing’s impacting us, when inside we may feel scared… but the cost builds up over time,” he confides. Suppressing vulnerability and sensitivity had consequences not only for his emotional health but also his physical well-being.

The Power of Sensitivity and Vulnerability

Steven’s openness during the conversation is refreshing—he shares how being a “highly sensitive person” meant he processed experiences more deeply, both the good and the bad. While this provided gifts in creativity and empathy, it also made the setbacks—like a difficult divorce and distressing health challenges—hit even harder. After years of pushing through, his body forced him to stop; two years were spent recovering from heavy metal toxicity, unable to work, facing bankruptcy, and being forced to wholly “surrender to life.”

What shifted everything was learning to honor his emotional reality, rather than hide it. “Self-love is the foundation of all of it,” Steven emphasizes. Only through compassion for himself and acceptance of all facets—both his strengths and shadows—could he start rebuilding from a place of authenticity.

Healthy Love and Rebuilding from Within

The experience led Steven to immerse himself in profound personal work, notably through “Healthy Love,” a framework for emotional and relational education developed by therapist Rachel Levy. He describes it as “emotional intelligence on steroids,” a place where you rebuild your relationship with yourself before life forces you to. “You’re taking inventory about what’s really happening—but you’re being held by other people you can relate to,” he explains.

A crucial insight he shares is the importance of community in healing. While individual coaching and introspection are powerful, being witnessed and supported by others accelerates growth and rewrites the deep-seated belief that “it’s not okay to be me.” Over time, self-acceptance leads to healthier, more genuine relationships with others—both at work and at home. “People appreciate you more when you’re authentic and vulnerable,” Steven says, “your vibration lifts, and you attract different things into your life.”

From Surviving to Thriving—and Leading Others

Steven didn’t just recover—he transformed. His journey led to opportunities aligned with his renewed sense of self, such as helping launch digital platforms for transformative teachers like Eckhart Tolle. Today, he coaches others worldwide virtually, using the principles he learned to help clients move from inner conflict to wholehearted alignment.

Steven’s story is a powerful reminder that our hidden struggles can become the seeds for our greatest growth. Authenticity, self-love, and community are not just buzzwords—they are the foundation for a truly successful and meaningful life.

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